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June 24, 2014

Brenda Boutwell Carr

Jan. 3, 1947-June 19, 2014

HUMBLE, Texas — Brenda Boutwell Carr of Humble, Texas passed away on June 19, 2014.

She was born to William Jerry (W.J.) and Leola Jordan Boutwell in Beaumont, Miss. on Jan. 3, 1947. Brenda grew up in Beaumont, where she graduated from Beaumont High School. She was an outstanding athlete and an All State basketball player. On Aug. 10, 1969, as soon as they both graduated from college, she and John Robert (Robby) Carr, of Laurel, Miss., were married.

Brenda and Robby both started their careers as teachers and coaches. Their first jobs teaching were in MacClenny, Flo., and Brenda continued teaching in various locations as her husband’s career in the Oil Field Services took them to new places. She taught in Laurel and Natchez, Miss., and Big Spring, Teas. She later became a school counselor and administrator in Duncan, the town the family came to call their home town. Robby’s career eventually took them to live internationally, and Brenda took on the challenge of teaching in the American School in Jakarta, Indonesia. Upon returning from abroad, Brenda made a home for her family in Humble, Texas. She ended her career as a counselor at Atascocita Middle School, retiring in 1997.

She graduated from the University of Southern Mississippi with her first degree, a Bachelors Degree in Physical Education. Through the years, while working full time and raising her children, Jay and Kelly, she went on to receive Graduate Degrees in Physical Education from William Carey, and Graduate Degrees in Counseling from The University of Texas and in Education Administration from the University of Oklahoma. It was her ultimate love of children and for helping others that drove Brenda in her own education and life’s work. Through her work and in her everyday life, she touched thousands of people; especially children and their families by helping “her kids” prepare for life and work towards achieving their goals. She left her positivity, strength, and a little bit of her heart with each person she encountered. Brenda couldn’t count the number of kids who came through her life that regarded her as “another mom.” It was impossible to part ways with her without receiving a warm, heartfelt hug. Family and friends were Brenda’s passion and joy. And if you met her once, to her, you were a friend. She loved life and had an infectious laugh that flowed freely and often. She was the first to offer a pat on the back, a word or encouragement or a well needed hug to friends and strangers alike. She celebrated victories, relished achievements and heralded good news of loved ones to all who would listen. She suffered, soothed, and comforted countless numbers through hardships, heartaches, and tragedies. Throughout all she faced and every experience she encountered, including a successful fight with breast cancer, she refused to consider defeat as an option and she never allowed those around her to believe they were defeated. Through her, people felt uplifted, inspired and most importantly, loved. She was incredibly close with her two brothers, Danny and Allen, and their families. She loved Robby’s five brothers and sisters and their families as her own. She delighted in and doted on her children and her son-in-law and her life was truly blessed by her two granddaughters and grandson. Nothing gave her the extra energy that her grandkids did. She loved to entertain, travel, sew, sports, to cook for her family and keep in touch with her many friends, old and new, especially on Facebook. She and Robby traveled the world and made friends everywhere they went. But her greatest joy was to be with Robby and their kids and be surrounded by friends and family, sharing stories and making memories.

Brenda was preceded in death by her father, William Jerry Boutwell, and brother, Danny Boutwell. She is survived by her husband of 45 years, John Robert (Robby) Carr and her children, John Robert (Jay) Carr, Jr. of Houston, Texas and Kelly and Todd Abernathy of Dallas, and her granddaughters, Ainsley Jordan Abernathy and Finley Laurel Abernathy and grandson, John Robert Carr, III. In addition, she is survived by her mother, Leola Jordan Boutwell of Beaumont, Miss., her sister-in-law, Susan Boutwell, of McClenny Flo., her brother, Allen Boutwell and his wife Cynthia, and by many beloved in-laws, cousins, aunts, uncles, nieces and nephews and an endless number of people she touched throughout her life. The family wishes to thank all of those who loved and cared for her. Donations in lieu of flowers may be made in Brenda’s name to the Susan G. Komen Foundation for Breast Cancer. Funeral services were held 11 a.m., Monday, June 23, 2014 at St. Philip the Apostle Catholic Church.

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