The Duncan Banner
For Mike Peercy, Father’s Day isn’t about making grand plans.
Instead, it’s about spending as much quality time with as many of his children as he can. As a father of six, that is quite a chore but this Father’s Day, Peercy has even more to celebrate as he recently had an addition to his family nest.
Pastor of Calvary Baptist Church in Duncan, Peercy performed the wedding of his eldest son Mickey, 21, to his bride Jessica just one week ago. His other children are Kari, 19; Andrew, 18; Jon, 16; Tommy, 14 and Daniel, 13.
“Five teenagers; it’s good for my prayer life,” Peercy said as he chuckled. “They all get along and it’s a fun dynamic.”
After officiating his son’s wedding, Peercy is glad he only has one daughter because even marrying off Mickey was an emotional moment. The pastor said he got many of his emotions out while preparing for the event alone in his church office.
“In that moment (at the wedding), the responsibility of communicating the purpose to them far outweighed my emotions,” Peercy said.
“You spend 21 years praying for this young man but you also spend most of that time praying for that young woman. It was an honor to be asked to perform the wedding because I certainly didn’t expect it.”
Peercy did take a moment to express to his son how proud he was of him and of the partnership between he and Jessica. Now, when it comes time to think of Kari’s wedding day, Peercy said he just can’t go there just yet, just as most daddy’s find that hard to do.
With six children, finding the best ways to raise each individual personality was a challenge Peercy and his wife Tori met head on. Peercy said he feels that he has a special bond with each one of his children and is happy they are a large family.
“(Being a father) is the most excruciating and most exhilarating work I could have ever imagined and love has taken on a dimension I never understood before,” he said. “I’ve learned more about the heart of God through being a dad than 43 years of reading and studying the Bible.”
He explained that as much as an earthly father would do for their children, how much bigger must the heart of God be for his children? Peercy said Christmas, Thanksgiving and all the other times with his children have become about the joy of giving to them rather than thinking of himself, he said.
Through six children in eight years, Peercy said he and Tori carried around a diaper bag for 10 straight years and it was a breakthrough moment when all the children could go to the bathroom by themselves. It was also a lesson learned on how to raise each child at the same standards of the others, yet meet them on an individual level.
“Just as God comes to connect with each of us uniquely, we have to meet each kid where they are while the expectations are the same,” he said. “It’s hard work but there are some things we all share.”
The two biggest consistencies for each member of the Peercy family are faith and music.
“All the kids are very musical and have been in band,” he said. “And faith is central to who we are.”
For this Father’s Day, Peercy plans to fulfill his pastor role at Calvary in the morning, then have a nice evening with his family.
“I get to pick what’s for dinner but no big fancy plans because that’s not us,” he said. “If you spend all your time making big plans, you miss out on living and I don’t need major plans, just to be together.”