The Duncan Banner

November 6, 2010

LTE — Reader disputes account of incident


The Duncan Banner

DUNCAN — I also attended the Oct. 26 football game between Marlow and Horace Mann that Mr. Joe Combest wrote you about and was published Nov 3. I must admit that I agree with some of the things Mr. Combest stated, but disagree with a lot more.

Mr. Combest stated he was “forced to witness the worst display of sportsmanship and behavior that I have ever seen at any sporting event at any level” I don’t remember anyone forcing Mr. Combest to stand there. I do remember a father walking the sidelines screaming and being offensive with some of his comments. I remember this same father standing behind myself and a group of Marlow parents and yelling to the point that he had my 11-month-old daughter cry. I asked this father to go stand somewhere else if he was going to continue to scream like that, he could tell he was obviously upsetting my daughter. He told me he didn’t have to [expletive] leave and could stand where he wanted. This is when he and I began to argue, because I didn’t appreciate him using that language in front of me, my child or any of the other children running around playing. Mr. Combest came up to me, telling me to calm down and watch the game. The father didn’t do anything wrong, he was just there cheering on his son. Apparently a man using that type of language in front of women and children is appropriate to some. When my husband came upon the situation, Mr. Combest along with three other men circled him telling him the father using the foul language did nothing wrong and I had jumped all over him for no reason. If Mr. Combest was forced to witness and found it to be so “unacceptable” then why was he taking part in it?

If Mr. Combest is so unhappy with the way Duncan Youth Football is ran and thinks that the Duncan community sports is so “dysfunctional” then why doesn’t he step up and take over the organization or at least be on the board and “run them in a responsible way for the benefit of the kids” I would like to know how it has been “proven that the parents/volunteers are not capable” at handling the club. When the cops were called, the refs took a stand and got control over the situation, all while Mr. Combest had his hand in his pockets, smiling, telling people he had no clue what was going on.

As for his comment that he would not let his child play sports until the seventh grade where there is some “responsible adult supervision.” If I felt like my child, who is also in the sixth grade, was being coached or influenced by irresponsible adults, I would step up and do something about it. Why doesn’t Mr. Combest?

My son has played for the same coaches and team since the third grade and I would not take back or change anything his coaches or teammates have taught him. Because of the Duncan Youth Sports program as well as the volunteers and parents, he has made memories and friends that would not have been possible if the organization didn’t exist. He has also learned that in the end, cheating gets you no where, some coaches aren’t always going to play by the rules, players are going to play dirty, and refs aren’t always going to make every call fair. Because of the incidents that happened at this game, he also learned that sometimes adults act like children, but more important he learned that right or wrong, his parents, coaches, and teammates parents are going to take a stand and fight for our team.

I feel like if Mr. Combest is so unhappy, then he needs to step back, reassess the situation and do something about other then writing a letter. It’s very easy to pass the blame, but sometimes you need to swallow your pride and realize you were part of the problem.

I am very proud of our coaches, players and parents. I’m very proud to say my son is a Marlow Outlaw! We have five coaches, who work full time jobs, have a family of their own, yet find time to take on 30-plus boys and treat them like their own. When my child gets in the car after practice or a game with a smile on his face, because one of the coaches told him “good job” or “way to hussle” that is one of the best feelings in the world for a mother.



Crystal Smith

Marlow